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Share bed with dog?

QUESTION:

Is it okay to let my dog sleep in bed with me?

answered by Nicole Wilde

ANSWER:

Experts have long disagreed about this question. Some think it's acceptable since dogs are part of the family. Others protest that being literally on the same level as the owner gives a dog the idea that he's on the same level in a figurative sense as well, and makes him more likely to challenge the owner's authority.

I think it's fine in most cases. If your relationship with your dog is healthy--that is, he's treated with love and kindness, and respects the house rules and boundaries you've set--sleeping in your bed shouldn't cause a problem.

There are three circumstances, however, in which you shouldn't let your dog sleep in your bed:

1. Your dog has separation anxiety. Your dog needs to learn to feel comfortable being on his own. If he's sleeping in your bed, you're missing the opportunity to get him used to being physically separated from you while you're still present, an important first step in solving the separation anxiety problem.

2. Your dog has shown aggression toward you, or has his own ideas about who's really in charge. These are the dogs who, when asked to get off the bed, curl a lip, growl, air-snap, or bite. They may also do those things when someone rolls over or shifts in their sleep. If that describes your dog, he's not a good choice for a bedmate!

3. Your dog is a Great Dane or other large dog who steals the blankets. Who wants a huge, fur-covered blanket thief?

Unless any of the above apply to you, go on and invite Rover over. Dogs aren't only cuddly, they make fantastic bed-warmers on cold nights!


Nicole Wilde is a Los Angeles–based Certified Pet Dog Trainer specializing in behavior issues, and is the owner of Gentle Guidance Dog Training and the author of several books, including Help for Your Fearful Dog.



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Comments

AvatarIt's disgusting. My boyfriend lets his dogs sleep on the bed. They are dirty and have fleas. HELP!!” — fleahater, Sep 28 2009

AvatarI think its perfectly acceptable to share a bed with a fully trained dog. Maybe not with a young, clueless dog, who is still a bit shaky on whos boss though.” — Paige, Mar 22 2009

AvatarYou missed a crucial 4th time when the dog shouldn't be in the bed. When you have another ADULT in it with you. Unless of course you want as much distance and as little romance as possible from that person. ” — dogeared, Nov 29 2008

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