how to cope with the loss

is there anybody there i can talk to ??

oh my god thank you so much for your reply, i am in ireland and i was just so deeply upset lastnight i googled how to say goodbye to your dog and found this site. We said goodbye to our beloved Bruce this morning at 12pm, it was so lovely in the end, the vet came to our house , and they were so kind and gentle with him, it was so very sad but also very peaceful to see the pain leave his body as he closed his eyes for the last time. its a strange thing to say but it was a relief in the end as it was far to painful to see the best thing that ever came into my life so miserable and unhappy, you can definately see it in their eyes and he was soo tired. It was great to have him here also as he was with us all when he passed and we were all holding him, and talking to him, we buried our 16yr old lab pal in the back garden where he loved to sit in the sun and watch the birds on the feeders, and we can see him from the back window so i feel he is still with us, we made the day so special, and i am absolutely lost tonight without his company here with me, the house is so quiet without him but am glad not to hear the panting and the sound of the fan blowing over him to keep him cool. we were so thankful to have had him in our lives and he made us all better people for having him, he brought us such joy all of his days. sleep well Bruce, you have earned your rest special man, and we will treasure your memory always xxx

thank you again so much for your reply and your kind words, it does help and it is a great comfort, to know that there are lots of people out there that are are as crazy over their pet as we were about Bruce, and i dont feel as bad now for bein “that upset over a dog” !! i was just so desperate lastnight and the whole build up was far worse than the actual event , am so glad he is at peace now. he was the best friend in the world , my heart is broken in two, and part of me is gone with him, so at least he is gone with that. i look forward to the day when i can just remember him fondly and smile. Sarah xxx

was part of my healing n a way of coping to write it down, this is a great site. tanks for some closure xx

aww, ahh thanks so much again for the support understanding and advice, everyone has been fantastic to me on this site and it is really helping to talk to like minded people, its great to no im not rediculous for the way i feel, eventhough i am a grown 31 yr old, i cry like a baby, i really do feel like ive lost a part of me, i no its only been a few days but he was a huge part of our daily lives , even the simplest of things like boiling an egg reduces me to tears as Bruce always had his own boiled along with ours and he also got all the tops too, lol, i keep catching myself calling him, and talking to him, i miss the warmth of him at my feet, and the presence of him in a room, esp at nite when id cuddle him in front the telly, i miss the sound of his paws on the floor, and the thud of his tail on the sofa in the morning in pure delight to see you, i miss the wet nose nudging me from under the table, and the constant pawing id get in a plee for “my walk time”, every time im in the car i turn to see an empty back seat, and now all the windows are clean n not smudged by his nose. he was everywhere, involved in everything and now thers just a huge hole, in my life and my heart.

i will go and find that poem moonstar, thanks again for your thoughtful words, much appreciated, and i am also so very sorry for your loss, sarah xx

I know how it feels because 4 days ago we had to put our almost 16 year old Dalmatian to sleep. Her legs just gave out on her. I know what you mean about how they were part of every aspect of your life. She was part of the 3 meals a day routine so I still find myself saving a little something for her. My older daughter can’t stand seeing any leftovers in the refrigerator because they were there for the pups dinner the next night. We buried our girl just like you. She is in our backyard by a little pond. I, too, am waiting for the tears to lessen and the pain to ease at least a little. It is so hard to walk downstairs each morning and not see my spotted friend on her bed by the fireplace (only on that bed because she could no longer jump up on her own chair!). We are hoping to fill the void she has left in the near future because our home is not a home without a four legged friend. We are not crazy to miss them so desperately. They were there for us no mater what.

cant believe its been a month already , time is flying by but im still lost without him, im longing for some brucy cuddles , but hes not there , feel so sad wen i look at his pics but love that i have this palce to come to, !! wondering how long im gonna feel so rottn , id love another dog but sooo not gona be Bruce, miss u so much baby xxxx

I’m about to go through the very same thing with my dog Spirit. he has lymphoma and just like you said…the panting…keeping a fan on him 24/7 is what I am doing right now. although he is still for the most part bright and happy which makes it even harder to imagine that in a few days he will be gone. He is my best friend in the whole enitre world. It is somewhat relieving to know I am not alone. Lymphoma is killing my best friend and grief is killing me. He goes with me everywhere, work, vacations etc etc…the void is going to be HUGE. I feel empty. Life is not fun anymore. I know everyone deals with greif in their own way and I’m not looking forward to it. :(