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  • cnctonya
  • ritchellei
Curry Cat
14 posts

Does anyone know if there are any laws against burying your pet in your backyard? Maybe cremation would be better but where do you keep the urn? Anyone have advice for me?

kimbakke7159
Goodyear AZ
2 posts

My condolences on your recent loss, I know how hard it is to cope with the grief. I try to turn the grief into something positive for my pet, my family and those who feel the pain and loss.

I’ve always buried my dogs in the yard, I really don’t care what the laws are. They deserve a great final resting place in my humble opinion after giving unconditional love for so many years. I can’t bear the thought of them in a dumpster or landfill, who could?

I suggest you bury them somewhere in the yard they roamed. My last pooch Sparky resides in the far end of my garden. Make sure they are interred deep enough so other animals won’t try to dig them up, at least three feet deep or more.

A headstone, marker or cross is always nice. If you choose to not mark the spot, I have another suggestion. I always plant a tree or something nice above them. I am a firm believer their spirit passes into the tree and provides shade and peace to those who sit under it.

Sparky has a honeysuckle above him and the tree provides plenty of nectar to the hummingbirds who reside the winters here in the Sonoran desert in AZ.

It is special to me and Spark because the hummers need that nectar to survive the winter. He used to sit under the tree and watch me work in the garden. Spark liked to dig a few snacks out of the garden every now and then, too!

Honeysuckle is one of the few trees/bushes that flower in the winter here providing much needed sustenance to his friends.

The hummers used to taunt & tease him in the back yard all the time. I’ve seen them light on his butt several times, they were as curious of him, as he was of them.

You have to decide if you are comfortable with interment; what if you move? If not, then cremation is the better choice because they will always be with you.

Place the urn on a mantle or special place where you can rememeber all the good times and laughs you had together. Or, you can spread their ashes somewhere significant to the both of you.

I hope this helps you with your loss and I wish you and those around you peace and goodwill…

Kimmer

abbylane
ontario
1 post

hi there:

I agree with what was said about buring a pet and caring about the laws. my pet would come first if I felt better about having him close. There are lots of nice garden grave markers you can get with their name and dates on them which make the spot so much more personal. I have found a site www.heavenpeturns.ocm that has them and cremation pet urns at good prices as well. Both I thought were quite nice and attractive as well. I stumbled onto while looking for pet stores. Anyone who was doing cremation might consiider a pet urn from this site.

A pet urn might be a good answer in case you do end up moving to a new home then you can always be sure your pet will go with you and that he will always be safe. Most urns are so attractive now that they fit into any style of decorative living.

Making sure that your pet is safe even after he has moved on will be a comfort.

abbylane

Swinkguy
63 posts

Cremation is a good thing to do. I had my first dog Teyla cremated. Her ashes are in a jar that sits on my dresser with all of her pictures. It is better to have your pet cremated because you can keep the ashes forever.

iluvdals
6 posts

Hi,

I live in a city in Co— & have heard we are not allowed to bury

our animals in the backyard. I have my dogs cremated when they die.

The urn’s are small so you can keep them anywhere. I keep mine

where I can’t see them because it reminds me of how much I miss

them. I hope this is helpful.

iluvdals
6 posts

Hi,

I live in a city in Co— & have heard we are not allowed to bury

our animals in the backyard. I have my dogs cremated when they die.

The urn’s are small so you can keep them anywhere. I keep mine

where I can’t see them because it reminds me of how much I miss

them. I hope this is helpful.

Loves Dogs
NJ
5 posts

Condolences on your loss.

You can search the internet for a pet cemetary, I was surprised to find one. I had Penny, my Cav. buried with my parents…I don’t think it was an issue or we didn’t care. I cremated my cat and scattered her ashes outside a bird sanctuary – it was perfect for her, it really fit. I lost my Mike a few weeks ago, I am still weepy, but I had him cremated and he is currently with me but, I am thinking of burying his ashes near a lake we used to go to. If your pet was small, I would go ahead and bury your pet in the backyard. Unless you live just above water table, I don’t see the harm.

cnctonya
cincinnati
4 posts

I am so so sorry for your loss, In the past year we have had to have both of our shitzu’s put down and it is horriable. They were both very,very old one 20 and the other 25 in human years, I can tell you that burying them in your yard is not against the law in ohio, however I’d like to share this thought with you. Two weeks ago we had my Mia put down we also have a lab tut. We have both dogs buried in the back yard toby passed in November and the ground was hard and cold so they could not smell him, Mia however was just two weeks ago. The weather warm and sunny. Since we buried Mia Tut will not go into the back yard. Whenever we try to put him out he sits and crys at the back door and will not even go into the yard at all. The back yard was once his greatest joy and now he will not go there so not only has he lost his two mates in the past year he has also lost his domain. So please,please becareful when burying your pet if you have other pets. We never gave it a thought that he could possibly know that they were even back there.

ritchellei
156 posts

Coping with the loss of a pet can be a very difficult time for you. Here are a few suggestions of ways to help you work through your grief by creating a lasting memorial to your loved one.


1. Create a website to honor your pet’s life.

2. Commission a professional portrait of your pet

3. Purchase a garden memorial or stone accent for your yard

4. Create and publish a book about your pet’s life

5. Write a letter to your pet, have it framed, and display it on your wall.

6. Donate to an animal rescue group in your pet’s name

7. Create gold or silver jewelry containing your pet’s ashes

8. Create a diamond or gemstone from your pet’s carbon or ashes

9. Have your pet’s ashes made into fireworks

10. Launch your pet’s ashes into deep space


http://dogtime.com/top-10-ways-to-honor-your-do…

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